Parable of the Unforgiving Servant
— Matt 18:21–35 — Andrew Fountain: Oct 13, 2013
- Setting, 3 scenes, and a conclusion
Matthew 18
- Then Peter came to him and said, “Lord, how many times must I forgive my brother who sins against me? As many as seven times?”
- Jesus said to him, “Not seven times, I tell you, but seventy-seven times!
- You can imagine Peter is very pleased with himself!
- I’m so forgiving! SEVEN times!!!
Scene 1
- “For this reason, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants.
- As he began settling his accounts, a man was brought to him who owed ten thousand talents.
- Because he was not able to repay it, his master ordered him to be sold, along with his wife, children, and all his possessions, and repayment to be made.
- Then the servant threw himself to the ground before him, saying, ‘Be patient with me, and I will repay you everything.’
- The master had compassion on that servant and released him, and forgave him the debt.
- I looked to see if there were any videos on YouTube...
- It looks like every church youth group in the world has thought it would be cool to act it out, and upload it to YouTube!
- some of them are pretty terrible.
- And is seems like everyone who has Lego has decided to upload an animation using Lego characters
- But there were a couple of videos that were excellent:
- We like this scene
- 10,000 talents
- We know that the gross taxation revenue of the three nations that king Herod ruled was 600 talents/year
- Equivalent to about $12 billion
- over 100,000 years wages
- The main point is that there is no possibility of him ever paying it
- God’s forgiveness is like that
- There is absolutely not the remotest possibility of us ever repaying the debt for how we have broken his laws
- The parable could have stopped right here, and it would have given us a nice warm feeling!
- Everybody is nice and it ends well
Scene 2
- But that same servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him one hundred silver coins. So he grabbed him by the throat and started to choke him, saying, ‘Pay back what you owe me!’
- Then his fellow servant threw himself down and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will repay you.’
- But he refused. Instead, he went out and threw him in prison until he could repay the debt.
- Now there is a shock
- This is 100 day’s wages
- We are shocked that anyone would behave like this
- Jesus intends us to feel a sense of outrage —because it is outrageous!
- We are with the fellow servant here:
Scene 3
- When his fellow servants saw what had happened, they were very upset and went and told their master everything that had taken place.
- Then his master called the first servant and said to him, ‘Evil servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me!
- Should you not have had mercy to your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’
- And in anger his master turned him over to the jailers to torture him until he repaid all he owed.
- So also my heavenly Father will do to you, if each of you does not forgive your brother from your heart.”
- If we stay in the story line and apply this to an earthly king, not to God, then the story makes sense.
- This is pretty much what we might expect to happen.
- Now here the nice little story about grace gets a bit uncomfortable for us!
- Do we lose our forgiveness? Is God like this king who just changes his mind and “unforgives”?
- You can’t treat a parable as if it were an equation.
- Don’t push it beyond it’s purpose
- Reasons why we can’t push it too far:
- This king is not like God in many ways:
- He doesn’t know the future
- Can just forgive on a whim
- He needs the other servants to tell him what happened
- Where does the second servant end up? —he is left in prison as well
A couple of short verses
- “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy. Mat 5:7
- Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Eph 4:32
Matthew 5
- So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you,
- leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
- Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison.
- Truly, I say to you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.
Prayer
- For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you,
- but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
- Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
- And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
- So is our forgiveness conditional on how well we forgive others?
- Does God’s grace forgive every sin except not forgiving others?
- These warnings must mean something!!
- What do you think?
- Jesus’ teaching developed during his ministry and he gradually revealed more and more
- After setting such a high standard for behaviour that we could never keep it,
- He later revealed that he would give us the power “without me you can do nothing”
- And then that this would be through the gift of the Holy Spirit
- When we look at the list of the fruits of the Spirit in Gal 5:22 we see most of them are to do with how we relate to others.
- If it wasn’t for the gift of the Holy Spirit then we would never be able to forgive others
- But what is missing from the parable is that God not only forgives, but gives a new heart
- “I will remove the heart of stone from your body and give you a heart of flesh” Ez 36:26
- This new heart is the work of the Spirit of God, making us like our father
- So does this mean that all people who have a new heart will automatically forgive all the time?
- Galatians 5 tells us that there is a war going on inside us between
- the new and the old, the Spirit and the old fleshly ways
- So does that mean that the last part of the parable has no point, since all true Christians will eventually forgive others.
- There have always been many people in the church who are not truly saved—they don’t have a new heart
One thing that gives them away is that they don’t show the fruits of the Spirit, including forgiveness
- More importantly, we can live in unforgiveness for large periods of time an rob ourselves of joy and freedom
Application
- So let’s get practical
- Example of person who brought up issue from long ago
- forgiving means letting go of it
- But let me ask you a question:
- Should the king have done nothing in the end and just let it go?
- Should the servant have been allowed to continue to abuse others again and again?
- What if you have an abusive boss at work
- Should you never complain, but just enable him to continue and abuse others?
- Is it possible to forgive someone, yet to hold them accountable?
- God does with us!
- God is committed to changing us for the better!
- Be as humble as a child 1–6
- Be aware how easy it is to fall into sin because it’s all around us: be on your guard 7–9
- Lost sheep: It’s God’s will that those who do fall and stray be brought back 12–14
- When there is failure in others, we do have to deal with it, but in love and care 15–20
- Then Peter asks the question about how many times we should forgive
- So this puts it in context:
- The shepherd & the 100 sheep
- Dealing with brother who sins against us
- Story of Korean pastor who son was murdered
- But for us at Newlife church, most of the issues are small things
- Not even 100 silver coins, but just a nickle
- We feel that someone else has not treated us right
- Standing up for our rights in relationships
- I don’t deserve to be treated like that
- She totally devalued me
- I feel disrespected
- I have a right to be treated better than that
- We need to separate out two things
- The fact that we personally may be hurt—which we can forgive
- The fact that harm is being done, and someone is sinning—which ultimately God must address
- we can pray, and sometimes we can take action
- but it must come out of a heart of forgiveness, not vindictiveness
- We genuinely want the best for the person
- Think of what God has forgiven you!!!
- Someone may be very immature in the way they relate to others
- But how much more immaturity does God see in us?
- He is not going to punish us for our sin—it is forgiven, but it still grieves him
- Like our children can grieve us (or the disciples did to Jesus)
- Think of what God has forgiven you!!!
- thoughts, actions, selfishness...
- If you are not a Christian, then put yourself back into that first scene
- God is very willing to forgive you, if you only realize that you can’t pay what you owe and throw yourself on his mercy!
- Let’s all stand and ask the Spirit to show us where there are areas we need to respond to this right now.
Not used:
“To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” ― C.S. Lewis
- Be as humble as a child 1–6
- Be aware how easy it is to fall into sin because it’s all around us: be on your guard 7–9
- Lost sheep: It’s God’s will that those who do fall and stray be brought back 12–14
- When there is failure in others, we do have to deal with it, but in love and care 15–20
- There are no limits to God’s forgiveness 21–27
- So there should be no limits to ours 28–29
- But not forgiving is extremely serious 30–35
Updated on 2013-10-14 by Andrew Fountain