- So is our forgiveness conditional on how well we forgive others?
- Does God’s grace forgive every sin except not forgiving others?
- These warnings must mean something!!
- What do you think?
- Jesus’ teaching developed during his ministry and he gradually revealed more and more
- After setting such a high standard for behaviour that we could never keep it,
- He later revealed that he would give us the power “without me you can do nothing”
- And then that this would be through the gift of the Holy Spirit
- When we look at the list of the fruits of the Spirit in Gal 5:22 we see most of them are to do with how we relate to others.
- If it wasn’t for the gift of the Holy Spirit then we would never be able to forgive others
- But what is missing from the parable is that God not only forgives, but gives a new heart
- “I will remove the heart of stone from your body and give you a heart of flesh” Ez 36:26
- This new heart is the work of the Spirit of God, making us like our father
- So does this mean that all people who have a new heart will automatically forgive all the time?
- Galatians 5 tells us that there is a war going on inside us between
- the new and the old, the Spirit and the old fleshly ways
- So does that mean that the last part of the parable has no point, since all true Christians will eventually forgive others.
- There have always been many people in the church who are not truly saved—they don’t have a new heart
One thing that gives them away is that they don’t show the fruits of the Spirit, including forgiveness
- More importantly, we can live in unforgiveness for large periods of time an rob ourselves of joy and freedom
Application
- So let’s get practical
- Example of person who brought up issue from long ago
- forgiving means letting go of it
- But let me ask you a question:
- Should the king have done nothing in the end and just let it go?
- Should the servant have been allowed to continue to abuse others again and again?
- What if you have an abusive boss at work
- Should you never complain, but just enable him to continue and abuse others?
- Is it possible to forgive someone, yet to hold them accountable?
- God does with us!
- God is committed to changing us for the better!
- Be as humble as a child 1–6
- Be aware how easy it is to fall into sin because it’s all around us: be on your guard 7–9
- Lost sheep: It’s God’s will that those who do fall and stray be brought back 12–14
- When there is failure in others, we do have to deal with it, but in love and care 15–20
- Then Peter asks the question about how many times we should forgive
- So this puts it in context:
- The shepherd & the 100 sheep
- Dealing with brother who sins against us
- Story of Korean pastor who son was murdered
- But for us at Newlife church, most of the issues are small things
- Not even 100 silver coins, but just a nickle
- We feel that someone else has not treated us right
- Standing up for our rights in relationships
- I don’t deserve to be treated like that
- She totally devalued me
- I feel disrespected
- I have a right to be treated better than that
- We need to separate out two things
- The fact that we personally may be hurt—which we can forgive
- The fact that harm is being done, and someone is sinning—which ultimately God must address
- we can pray, and sometimes we can take action
- but it must come out of a heart of forgiveness, not vindictiveness
- We genuinely want the best for the person
- Think of what God has forgiven you!!!
- Someone may be very immature in the way they relate to others
- But how much more immaturity does God see in us?
- He is not going to punish us for our sin—it is forgiven, but it still grieves him
- Like our children can grieve us (or the disciples did to Jesus)
- Think of what God has forgiven you!!!
- thoughts, actions, selfishness...
- If you are not a Christian, then put yourself back into that first scene
- God is very willing to forgive you, if you only realize that you can’t pay what you owe and throw yourself on his mercy!
- Let’s all stand and ask the Spirit to show us where there are areas we need to respond to this right now.
Not used:
“To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” ― C.S. Lewis
- Be as humble as a child 1–6
- Be aware how easy it is to fall into sin because it’s all around us: be on your guard 7–9
- Lost sheep: It’s God’s will that those who do fall and stray be brought back 12–14
- When there is failure in others, we do have to deal with it, but in love and care 15–20
- There are no limits to God’s forgiveness 21–27
- So there should be no limits to ours 28–29
- But not forgiving is extremely serious 30–35